Did I promise an article on Routine? Well, let’s see if I can get it done today.
Some people are very structure oriented, some very variety oriented. The problem is that it is very doubtful that EVERYONE in your family is the same one. We must work at finding the right balance of Routine for our FAMILIES not just for OURSELVES. Yes, God gives us our specific family members to balance us. We all have seen the extremes of “schedule obsession” and “too flighty to finish anything”, and none of us want to be like those people. Even if WE are those people, we don’t want to be. And our families certainly don’t want us to be.
How do we find this balance? Let me suggest a middle of the road approach to “Routine” that can be adjusted slightly one way or the other to best suit your family. Although I’m giving this in a step-by-step format, I realize, and I hope YOU do too, that Real Life and Relationships do not operate by formulas.
Step 1) Start by making your list of priorities. This is NOT a lengthy, impossible “to do” list, NOR is it your “life goals” list. This is a list of basic priorities that are important to your family. Perhaps customizing the “7 Disciplines of L.E.D.” will give you an idea to start with. You can see the 7 Disciplines online – http://www.angelfire.com/ne/meandmyhouse/led-7disciplines.html – and more details are given on the “8 Principles of Lifestyle Education” tape. These are specific to our *educational* priorities, obviously other things are priority too; clean clothes, picked up house, healthy meals, husband/wife time, etc. but, in this article we are talking about our education routine, AND, as you’ll see in our example below, we have included most of those other priorities – husband/wife time is not included during the “school-day routine, household chores are.
Step 2) Set a few “checkpoints” during the day. I find that mealtimes make the most effective checkpoints. One reason is that they can be slightly flexible if necessary (unless you have someone that comes home for a certain lunch hour). Other checkpoints can be based on set appointments; i.e. someone has to leave the home at a set time. Perhaps you want to have Family Worship before Dad goes to work.
Step 3) Set up your basic daily Routine upon these priorities. Do them in order of priority, filling in other details as needed. This is the ORDER they are done in, not TIME that they are done. This is Routine, not Schedule. That way if interruptions come, or you have to drop everything for an emergency, you still know that the most important things got accomplished. There is a saying called the Tyrrany of the Urgent; that the important often gets crowded out by the urgent. If we begin and order our day by the most important things, this is less likely to happen.
Let me give you an example, based upon the 7 Disciplines.
Checkpoint #1 – Breakfast at 9:00 – personal devotions and grooming done before. I don’t care what time you get up, just have these things done before 9.
After breakfast – Family Worship (includes Disciplines 1 – 3) then
Daily Chores
Perhaps you want to add another checkpoint – at 10:30 – everyone back to the table for Table Time:
Character Study
Copywork/Handwriting
Free Writing
Life and Learning Skills (any help and training you need to give them, from math concepts to cleaning the toilet)
Checkpoint – Lunch at 12:30 – after lunch:
Family Read Aloud
Weekly Chores
Active work – Learning Experience and Discovery
Individual Reading and Assignments/ Notebook work
After all the above is completed is Free Time, whenever that time comes. Since the afternoon, after lunch and Family Reading, is basically “individual” time, Free Time will come at a different time for each person.
Our next checkpoint would be – Supper – 6:00 – with “Blitz” completed before then (however long before then that you need). Blitz is a quick pick up of house and putting away of all projects.
Perhaps they/ you finished early, before a checkpoint time, go on to the next thing (or if the next thing is a family thing, and not everyone is done and ready, they go on to the next *individual* thing.) If they/ you don’t finish by a checkpoint time, or you get called away from home for a while, pick up where you left off when you get back. If an individual doesn’t finish in time, they finish up before they can have Free Time. If it’s an issue of nobody got done because of an emergency or appointment, perhaps rather than picking up where you left off, you will choose to go straight to Free Time, knowing that what you did do was the most important.
Utilizing a basic Routine like this gives you more Freedom than a clock-based schedule, yet allows you to accomplish more – AND the things that are most important to your family, better – than “flying by the seat of your pants”. And that’s what Lifestyle Education is all about “Freedom and Simplicity™”.
